Just the kids on Christmas Eve... too many adults to get in one picture! |
I have always been intentional about creating “family
traditions.” We moved away from our
immediate family, which meant we had to come up with things that could morph
into traditions. Some have worked, such
as inviting anyone from church who didn’t have a better plan, to come to our
house for Christmas Eve. Other attempts
at creating a family tradition have not fared as well, such as waiting until
Easter to color eggs because the week before was too busy. Nothing like having the house smell like
vinegar, clothes stained and everyone’s fingers a weird shade of purple just as
company arrives. Lesson learned.
My children are all teenagers now, which poses it’s own set
of challenges, but I have noticed how some of the traditions have become
important to them. For several years we
invited friends over on Halloween for a chili dinner, followed by some trick or
treating. When the kids returned to the
house, they set up this elaborate inventory and
trade event. A few years ago I wasn’t
feeling well and wanted to bag the whole thing.
My daughter looked at me in disbelief and said, “make a list of what
needs to be done and I will take care of it.”
Mind you, I wasn’t canceling Halloween I simply didn’t want to
entertain. The next thing I know the
house was sort of clean and she made me a shopping list. Clearly she wasn’t letting go of this
tradition.
Our Annual Labor Day at Cannon Beach tradition |
Two years ago I booked a white water rafting trip
down the Deschutes. Needless to say we
had a blast. This past year I asked the
kids if they wanted to do it again to which one of my boys said, “It’s
tradition.” I didn’t realize doing it
once made it tradition – but I will go along.
Really any day in which we are all together and they get a long sounds
like a dream come true.
Recently a friend told me my son was over at her house
hanging out with her son. After a while
my son got up and said he was heading home because his family was “doing
something fun” so had to go. I have no
idea what exactly he was referring to, but I like the idea that he felt an urge
to come home and spend time with his family.
They might groan when I tell them not to make plans on a certain day so
we can have family time, but part of me thinks they actually
appreciate it.
For years the annual Christmas Tree Hunt ended when someone was in tears. Somewhere along the line they learned the fine art of compromise. |
This all sounds rather Norman Rockwell-ish, because I can
gloss over the time we went on a camping trip without Emily’s bag. She was left to sort through the boys’ extra
clothes and call it good. Or there was
the time when the kids were little and we were on a road trip through
California when we suddenly realized Emily’s Pocahontas sleeping bag flew off
the top of the car. Bad things didn’t
always happen to Emily though. We took
an extended trip to the east coast one summer and somewhere along the line lost Jack’s special blanky. Imagine a
preschooler on a long vacation without his most precious belonging. Or there was the time the kids were all
working with John in the garden when we noticed Smyth was eating the food
scraps in the compost pile. So you get
the idea that not everything we do turns out well.
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