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| Before the start of each game, the captains walk out to meet the opposing team's captain for the coin toss. These young men are selected based on their leadership. |
Friday night was the last high school football game of the season, and for many of the athletes it was the last game of their lives. Sure, there will be pick up games, but that night was the last night many of them will ever suit up in full gear and play with those teammates. There are always a lot of emotions when a sport season comes to an end for any athlete. Each season bonds are forged, goals are set and hopefully accomplished, and a lot of personal growth takes place. After the final game there is a spectrum of emotions that both athletes and parents feel as they process the finality of it all. These past few days we have felt all these things.
Something happened after the game Friday night that was so moving, even at that moment it felt as if I were watching a sacred event unfold before my eyes. To fully understand the meaning a little context is required. All season long, the parents would wait until the teams
congratulated each other before walking down to the field. We would all congregate around our team
huddle and wait for the boys to lift their fists and say something in unity
before they turned and walked over to us.
Friday night was different, and for more reasons than the loss. That night marked the end, and witnessing it
felt like watching a sacred event.
Personally, I was not caught up in the emotions that many of the parents experienced. This is Jack’s first and last season, so we
didn’t have as much invested as other parents. Many of these families have been together for years. In a way that gave me a somewhat impartial eye to witness the events
unfold. When the boys gathered into
their last team huddle they stood motionless.
I suspect the coaches helped the young men shift their thinking from the loss to
what they achieved and possibly they told them how proud they are of each of them. The
talk ended but the young men were not ready to take the next step. They stood motionless for a few moments, a
few long moments. Then slowly they
turned to each other and started hugging, sharing words and for some, openly
crying. Yet, as they did this, none of
them turned around. None. It was clear that not one of them was ready
for the moment to end. Slowly, they
moved around this nucleus with a chasm between them and us. Keeping their backs to us – their family and
friends – the young men continued to support each other and stretch that last moment. Finally, one by one they broke the bond holding
them together, and turned to face us parents.
Like I said earlier, it was like witnessing a sacred moment up
close.
I believe each one of the young men experienced a lot that night. The seniors crossed the threshold
of an important milestone. For some,
football is their identity, the core of who they are: a teammate, an athlete, and
a leader. Those seniors knew the moment
they turned to face us parents and friends, it would be the first step into a
new, possibly undefined part of their senior year. It was their first major “last” event during
this senior year. There are some who
will transition into other sports or activities, but that too is a giant step
away from their identity as a football player.
I suspect many of the young men have been playing since elementary
school, and this marked the last time they will don the armor of the game.
As the young men broke away from each other, some shed tears
while others held back but one thing was obvious, there was a lot of emotion
down on that field. When the coaches
turned away from the huddle, some stopped to talk with parents while others
busied themselves with the task of packing up.
Regardless, I could see in everyone’s eyes and body language that the coaches too were processing the end of a wonderful season but through the lens of a final loss. Each will move at their own
pace to the point where the beauty of this season is a stronger memory than
that last loss.
Through the coaching staff’s commitment, these young men learned more
than good techniques and strategies – they learned more than lessons associated
with setting goals and working to achieve them.
We know they will all face different obstacles in life, but the skills
learned during practice, games and that last huddle will help them find the
strength and desire to move forward and overcome whatever challenge they face.
This season was meaningful. For that to occur, I recognize that the
coaching staff has orchestrated something that doesn’t show up in the win-loss
column. The closeness of these young men
speaks volumes toward the healthy attitudes and relationships amongst the
team. But the season was meaningful for
more than those with uniforms, it was meaningful for the parents and the
student body as well. Am I happy that
the team had a winning season?
Sure. Do I appreciate how
connected these young men are and how much they have grown on and off the
field? Absolutely. That is the meaningful part, and the piece
that will stay with them for the rest of their lives. And for that I want to thank everyone
on the coaching staff. It was a beautiful season.
